The Great Pause of 2020

I can't imagine there's a human on the planet who hasn't been affected by The Great Pause of 2020. People keep talking about things getting back to normal. But this time, this pause, has changed us. For me, it's made me even more grateful for the life I am able to live. Grateful for my good health. Grateful for my 82-year-0ld mom's relatively good health. Grateful that we have enough money in the bank to go to the grocery store and buy food. I remember a time growing up, when we didn't have half as much. And yet we were grateful.

For now, our bills are paid, but nothing is being taken for granted. Hubby's job is not set in stone, and if that goes, we'll need to seriously readjust. But we've decided not to stress about it just yet. We cannot control a single aspect of that, so we're just going to clench financially, and relax in every other aspect. Let's figure out a way to enjoy this pause, this time, and reflect on what our new normal is going to be.

My day-to-day schedule hasn't changed much. I still do coaching via Zoom, as I have for years. I just do more things by Zoom than I did before, including hanging out with friends. Oh yeah, and I'm grateful for tech. If this had been a few decades ago, we'd be screwed. Or unemployed. Or both.

But I'm here to tell you that what you're feeling—whatever you're feeling—is ok to feel! People who embrace all the emotions they're feeling when they arise are much better off down the road than those who suppress what they think of as negative emotions. Grant yourself the gift of feeling all the feels, no matter what they are. Grief, helplessness, overwhelm, peace, silliness, anger—take the time, roll in it for a bit. Let it out! Create art. Dance. Sing. Play. Laugh. Cry. It's all part of the experience of being a human. And denying what you're feeling, or trying to twist a negative thought into something positive when it's not, or feeling guilty when you do feel like throwing something, doesn't do you any favors. Trust me, I'm an expert on how bottling up emotions can affect you.

If you feel like launching an entirely new business, great! Do it! If you feel like binge-watching The Witcher, great! Do it! Yesterday I had plans to work on a new website I plan to launch soon. Instead I cleaned and reorganized the pantry. And I have no guilt over it!

I'm allowing myself time to heal from the trauma that is happening all around us. I'm allowing the Great Pause to provide time for the self-care and introspection.

I am here to help you through this time as well. If you just can't afford it right now, no problem. Maybe we can work out a trade. Or maybe you can pay it forward when this is all over. If you want to pay what you can, that's ok too. I want to be able to help people get through this mess.

Please reach out to me and tell me how can I be of service to you.

A great big juicy good-juju-filled hug to you!
​—Cami